Life as a Mommy of four is busy, and fun, and rewarding, and scary, and CRAZY! And I love it. Not every minute of it maybe, but I do love it.
K3 has very quickly become a true Shanahan (no, her last name has not changed yet). She is still learning and adjusting, and I know it will continue to be a process - as growing is with every child. Her biggest struggle right now is obeying. I get the feeling she never was really told what to do before. That and she is definitely testing for consistency. (I think you can guess what she is finding there, too.) Her social worker told us before placement that she didn't have much consistency or discipline follow-through at her previous foster home, and that is definitely obvious. But we are working on it, and she is learning, albeit slowly. Potty training has gone GREAT, after a rough start. She has now been dry for a week straight, including nights. Today we went from trainers to regular underwear (ditched the pullups two weeks ago), and next time we're at the store she'll get to pick out some "special" ones (the ones she came with are pretty plain). I also decided a little over a week ago to quit using pullups at night. Since coming here, she only wet once at night. I don't really want her to get into a position where she regresses at night, which I think happened with Kaleigh. So, there you have it.
My littlest monster has really been a monster these last couple of days. He is suddenly teething like it's going out of style. Tooth #2 broke through Saturday morning, and tooth #3 just popped through this morning. On top of that, he is going through some separation anxiety right now; I can't even leave the room without him starting to throw a fit. This is making naps somewhat difficult. For example, right now. When he is happy, though, he is such a joy. He is eating solid foods now, sitting up really well in the Bumbo, interacting with all the toys on his ExerSaucer and bouncing himself around in it, and laughing at almost everything. He is such a sweet boy.
Kaleigh is also still adjusting to having another little girl around. At times, she is loving and leading and sharing and is just a very good sister. At other times, her need to control comes out and she tries to be the boss instead of the sister. I am trying to help her learn that she and K3 are equals in this house - she is not any higher up on the chain than her sister or anyone else for that matter. She knows it, but does not want to accept that she does not get to make the decisions or control anyone else. It has been quite the frustration, this past week in particular. I continue to pray for wisdom, grace, and more wisdom.
Hunter turned 12 almost two weeks ago now, and is also working at changing some behaviors. Overall, he has done much better these last few weeks than he had been doing in previous weeks. We continue to remind him that privileges are earned; they are not rights that one receives simply by reaching a certain age; and that they can be lost very easily and have to be re-earned, which is not nearly as easy as losing them. He is doing well in his schoolwork, and I decided to be done with math for the year (we will still do some review over the summer). He has almost finished his third reading workbook this year, and then he will be done with reading for this year as well. That leaves science, grammar, and vocab to finish up before he is done with 6th grade. I am pretty sure we will be working on all three during the summer, so I will just need to pick a good "stopping" point at which we can say 6th grade is over.
I guess that's it from the kiddo side of things. Randy and I continue to squeeze in time alone together whenever we can - which is sometimes next to never with our weekly schedule. We did have a very nice weekend, with some good family time and good couple time and lots of just plain relaxing all around. Randy is transitioning into a new position at work - which I know he will do a fabulous job in! - but we are about to see him a little less during the weeks for awhile as he works on getting things straightened out and in order and learns the ropes of the new position. So our weekend family time continues to be as important as ever.
There are some updates I want to share regarding the status of the kids, but this entry is long enough, so they will have to wait for another entry.