(In case you're wondering, we've put a hold on calling Little Girl "Kaedyn." Since we don't know what the future holds now, we don't want to confuse or upset her. I'll just keep referring to her as K3 here, since I can't use her real name anyway.)
Her worker was here this morning. The DA and GAL are going to be dropping the TPR petition in October, at the next hearing. They will file a new CHiPS petition (Child in need of Protective Services), and the timeline starts over.
One of my main questions regarding this "start over" was answered: ONLY the timeline on the TPR starts over. The timeline on the whole case does not. Meaning, all the grounds that they have had since the day K3 was detained can still be used going forward. THANK GOD. I was so afraid they would all be wiped away.
BM is incarcerated, and no one knows for how long, but it sounds like we're talking about years. BD claims to be getting clean, but he also has something looking over his shoulder every day, so he really hasn't shown whether he can do it on his own. Also, some of the stories he tells CW aren't immediately verifiable. We have been doing one visit a month with BD; CW thinks she will have to go to 2 visits a month starting in October.
I'm just trying not to think too much about the whole thing. It's so sad for her and frustrating for us. Kids KNOW when their situation isn't permanent. That's why she keeps regurgitating her testing behaviors: to see if we will still keep her even if she is "naughty."
Please keep us in your prayers.
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Tomorrow we have court for Liam. BPs still haven't done anything, and the judge told them at the last hearing that he was suspending visits until this hearing, and he would make a further decision based on what they did between then and now. BM has actually spiraled completely out of control, and BD has done absolutely nothing. In fact, CW found out some things that have been going on with him that she didn't know before. We are praying that the judge will continue suspended visits, especially for mom. (If he gives dad visits back, and dad misses just one, he will be in default for abandonment.) I am also praying that if God would see fit, BM would just not show up to court. I believe her current condition is worse than it's ever been, and while I'm not getting my hopes up, I won't be surprised if she doesn't show up. I am praying that for Liam's sake, if at all possible, this could just be ended quickly.
Thanks for your thoughts and prayers during this time!