Well, I had a worker from K3's GAL's office here last week, and I had Ty's case manager here yesterday. K3's case manager was also supposed to come last week, but she was getting over a bout with pneumonia and wasn't able to make it.
I know I promised an update, but the truth is, there is very little "new" to report.
But for those who aren't up to date with what's going on (I know I don't share as much here as I do in "real life"), here's the skinny:
K3 came to us with her case already in TPR (Termination of Parental Rights) with the court. Her pretrial conference is next week, and her trial is the week after that. We are praying everything goes smoothly and quickly, while also being realistic and remembering that truly, anything can happen (we know this from experience!) It's strange to know that her case could be finished before Ty's, and that potentially, she could be adopted sooner. However, it's also strange to think that her case could be over sooner, but he could still be adopted sooner, since we can't adopt her until she's been with us six months, which happens to be October 14th!
In June, Ty's case was referred from the case worker's office to the DA's office for TPR. Then I found out that at the hearing in February, when Ty's grandmother got legal guardianship of his 2-1/2 year old brother, the court had also ORDERED the TPR on Ty. Why it took them so long to refer it, I have no clue; in fact, his worker quit at the end of May, and it was the new worker who referred the case to the DA's office, her second day on the job. Sort of ridiculous. I think maybe the previous worker was trying to give the bp's (bio parents) a chance to straighten up before she sent the referral, although it was clear from our conversations that she knew that was never going to happen, so I'm really not sure what the hold up was. Either way, the DA is in the process of filing the TPR with the court now. His permanency hearing has been scheduled for August since February, so hopefully the TPR will be addressed at the same time. Of course, we are also hoping that his case goes quickly, as he has now been with us 8 months and is definitely a part of our family. It's obvious that even he knows it, as he is sometimes clingy with me and at times will not go to anyone else.
K3's visits with bp's have been nonexistent, due to reasons I cannot disclose here. However, due to a change in one of those circumstances, her bd (bio dad) is in a position where he began asking for visits again. The case worker had no way of getting around it, even though she really didn't want to give him visits again; so she gave him one visit a month! I had to laugh. If the trial goes well for K3, bd will get one visit, and that will be it. As of right now, bm will get no visits, as her circumstances for not having visits have not changed. K3 has no bond with either of them, doesn't talk about them, and doesn't acknowledge them as her parents, even to her case worker or therapist.
Ty's visits, for all practical purposes, have also been nearly nonexistent. In February, his visits went from 3 per week per bp to 2 per week per bp, because they kept canceling visits. Starting next week, they go to 1 per week per bp, for the same reason - they miss more visits than they attend. So I'm really glad about that, because never knowing until the last minute whether a visit will happen or not is just you-know-what on the daily schedule - especially Fridays, when I try to plan fun things with the kids.
So that's the update on those two. Soon to follow: an update on our summer - past, present, and future! :-)